Yaqeen is the name and constant progression is the game. On a journey to become the best me through trial and error, knowledge and experience. posting whatever comes to mind in hope that others benefit in the process.

Cant live without you!

Cant live without you!

Can I live without you? I use to think not. What exactly was that feeling living inside of me convincing me that life is completely hopeless without you in it? Was it love? Was it the bond we built over time? What was it exactly that made me feel as if I could not see passed you? Why in the world was I so deeply dependent when I’m fully capable of being independent? The only thing I can think of is fear, good old fear. The one emotion that destroys so many. Fear, you bastard you. You think your so clever, with you manipulative ways and scare tactics. But wait, fear is created, and as easily as it was created it can also be destroyed. I just had a light bulb moment, feels good.

Fear is clever and also deceptive. Fear comes in many forms and at times disguises itself just to get in your head. Fear will appear as comfort, and humans are suckers for comfort especially regarding relationships. We can be in the most abusive mind damaging disruptive relationship but will refuse to remove ourselves because we are so called “comfortable.” We must know that nothing great comes from being comfortable, its when we step out of our comfort zone that things really start opening up. We may choose to stay with a sports team we know sucks ass but have been playing with the same teammates forever that it seems blasphemous to play for a different team. Props to Lebron James for departing ways with Cleveland for Miami. He was drafted and played for his hometown team but nothing positive was coming from it, so he jumped ship because it was best for him at the time. The choice to stay home and attend community college instead of taking a chance and leaving home for University because your comfortable at your parents house. Continuing a relationship with a significant other you clearly cannot get along with but remain due to the children or even worse, cause you think your not worthy of someone else loving you. All this sprouts from being comfortable and fearful.

Understanding who you are as a person is the first step of letting go of someone or something and moving forward with life. Realizing our true self and potential works wonders and is our secret weapon in defeating the stigma of being without that certain someone. We are sometimes better alone than together. I’m not promoting eternal solitude, but its best at times to just be alone and positive than with someone and miserable. Recognizing our strengths is critical and should be taken seriously. Too many times our weaknesses take center stage instead of our strengths and that creates a ball and chain feeling; giving you the illusion that moving forward is harder than it actually is.

You can live, breathe, eat, laugh, smile, jump, love. You can do anything, and I really mean anything. The choice is always ours and no one else’s. Difficulties arise when our rightful power is handed over to another and we are left powerless and unfortunately hopeless. You, me, him and her; we are far more capable than we know and are well equipped to take on anything life throws at us. Stay progressive and never let anyone, not even yourself stand in your way of happiness and contentment. You deserve the best, you can have the best, you are the best, so start acting your best.

We did well, but we can do better

We did well, but we can do better

Fear of what!?

Fear of what!?